5 Tips to Help you Reignite Your Marriage After Having Kids

 
Becoming a new parent is an intense experience, a rollercoaster of emotions, filled with emotional ups and downs, lack of sleep, lots of coffee, and of course, a new tiny human that has all your love and attention.
 
Spending alone time with your partner is often the last thing on your mind during those first weeks with baby, but as time goes by and you adjust to your new family dynamics, making an effort to reconnect with your spouse is essential.
 
Maintaining a good relationship with your spouse and raising happy, healthy children is all about balance and should be a priority. Below I am sharing 5 tips to help you reignite your marriage after having kids. 
 
5 Tips to Help you Reignite Your Marriage After Having Kids

5 Tips to Help you Reignite Your Marriage After Having Kids

 
1. Plan Date Night Well In Advance And Do Not Cancel
 
It is easy to make excuses and avoid a date night. After all, you are tired, your spouse is tired, finding childcare, setting everything up for the babysitter before you go, and getting yourself ready for a date may sound like a lot of work.
 
However, making an effort, planning a date night and sticking to it is so worth it.  You’ll feel your connection reigniting, and you will be reminded of the reasons you chose each other before the kids came into your lives. 
 
So next time you are thinking about getting tickets for that concert… don’t think twice and book it in advance. You’ll find a way to make it work! 
 
5 Tips to Help you Reignite Your Marriage After Having Kids
 
 
2. Start a New Hobby Together
 
Make a list of the things you and your partner have in common, then find a new hobby or reintroduce an old hobby you used to have and do it together. Make sure it is something for just the two of you, without the kids. You can take a class, learn a new skill, join a sport’s group.
 
Make sure you schedule the babysitter for those times and enjoy the time you are spending together as a couple. 
 
3. Try Something New and Surprise Your Partner
 
Next time you stop by the supermarket, head to the “Intimate Products” section and pick up a new personal lubricant or intimate gel. You will surprise your partner with something new and help spice up your private life.
 
K-Y is the #1 Doctor recommended vaginal lubricant brand and they have a fantastic selection of Intimate Gels, Personal Lubricants and  Warming Jelly/Gels to help get you and your partner in the mood. There is something for everyone!
 

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5 Tips to Help you Reignite Your Marriage After Having Kids
 
4. Be Appreciative and Practice Empathy
 
Parenting can be a tough job, and it may feel like you are stuck in a rut sometimes. Changing diapers, sleepless nights, late-night feeds, repeat. Make sure you voice your appreciation towards your partner and what they do to help. Whether they stay at home or go to work, practising empathy and putting yourself in their shoes is important. 
 
Don’t just think about it. Let them know how you feel and how grateful you are for what they do and to be riding the parenting rollercoaster with them. 
 
5. Take Care of Yourself and Prioritize Sleep
 
Don’t be afraid to ask for help and to take some time for yourself. Remember that you can’t give to others if you don’t take care of yourself first. Sleep is so important. Without it, you will feel cranky and tired, and you will never be in the mood to spend quality time with your partner.  
 
Take a break whenever it is possible, hire a sitter and take a nap while they watch your child or sleep when your baby sleeps. Yes, your housework can wait. Your relationships are more important than cleaning the dust bunnies under the bed! 

Did you have a hard time finding time to connect with your partner when you became a parent? Did you find any good strategies that worked for you?  

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Angela V

Founder and Writer at One Smiley Monkey blog
Hi, my name is Angela van Tijn and I live in Vancouver, Canada with my wonderful husband, our two boys and our puppy. I am the founder and primary contributor behind One Smiley Monkey. Welcome to my blog!
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17 responses to “5 Tips to Help you Reignite Your Marriage After Having Kids”

  1. Laura — November 11, 2019 @ 9:47 pm (#)

    Thanks for the tips. We have a newborn at home so these are really helpful right now 🙂

  2. Marissa Roma — November 12, 2019 @ 7:14 am (#)

    Thanks for sharing the tips! Entering the spa giveaway too 🙌🏻

  3. kristen visser — November 12, 2019 @ 12:28 pm (#)

    such great points!! we LOVE going for dinner and a movie. great few hours away just the two of us. but every weekend , while we stay at home and the girls have gone to bed, we enjoy some drinks together, chat and watch a movie. we love that just as much

  4. Stephanie LaPlante — November 12, 2019 @ 12:53 pm (#)

    It’s definitely important to make time with your loved one. I love all of these tips. I will be sure to forward them to anyone who needs a relationship boost.

  5. Jennifer Wilson — November 12, 2019 @ 1:45 pm (#)

    Thank you for all the tips. It is very important to keep your love for your partner alive!

  6. Carole D — November 12, 2019 @ 2:34 pm (#)

    These are great tips! Why not start the date night with a couple massage!

  7. nicky — November 12, 2019 @ 3:38 pm (#)

    This is a great reminder to schedule some date nights. It’s easy for time to go by due to the busy-ness of life, then we realize that we haven’t connected as a couple for a very long time.

  8. Louise — November 12, 2019 @ 5:35 pm (#)

    Its important to have date nights

  9. Melissa Holmes — November 12, 2019 @ 5:50 pm (#)

    Great ideas. We often forget to make time as a couple and now that our son is becoming a little older and more independent we need to make it a priority.

  10. Elizabeth Matthiesen — November 12, 2019 @ 8:45 pm (#)

    All good tips, it is so important that as a pair you find time for each other and not just for the kids or with the kids. Take the time together and enjoy yourselves, appreciate one another and thank one another for the support they give you.

  11. Sarah — November 14, 2019 @ 7:55 pm (#)

    So important to take time for yourself and foe each other. Lots of great tips here. 🙂

  12. Janet M — November 17, 2019 @ 11:29 am (#)

    Thanks for the thoughtful tips. They are so important.

  13. Shirley — November 18, 2019 @ 3:40 am (#)

    These are fantastic tips

  14. Elizabeth Matthiesen — November 22, 2019 @ 6:59 pm (#)

    I really enjoy seeing older couples walking around holding hands – I think that’s fantastic.

  15. AD — November 23, 2019 @ 6:49 pm (#)

    Looking after yourself and your relationship(s) are the best thing you can ever do for your family; spending time together, trying new things, making the time to just be is so, so important.

  16. Kristen s — December 1, 2019 @ 5:56 am (#)

    I love this! So many important tips! ❤️

  17. Micheline — December 2, 2019 @ 5:38 am (#)

    Great tips, this is something that is so important.

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