The Bully Project: It’s Time to Take a Stand {Parenting}

Stop the Bully

Thanks to The Bully Project for sponsoring my writing. Visit their website to join the movement and learn more.

Bullying is an unfortunate part of most childhoods and negatively impacts the lives of many people. All of us have encountered a bully or victim of bullying at some point in our lives, maybe even first hand. As a parent we instinctively want to keep our kids safe from harm and this of course extends to protecting them from this form of unnecessary physical and emotional torment. We also need to be acutely aware of how we are raising our kids and what kind of moral values we are instilling in them so they do not become the bullies.

Is this behavior preventable? I think it absolutely is but it requires concerted effort in large part from the adults and administrative systems that are taking care of our children. Education, awareness and getting to the true root of the problem are all essential for the global effort to stop this unacceptable behavior.

I think bullying is the result of a long list of possible problems. Some examples include: xenophobia, racism, homophobia, and possibly even undiagnosed/untreated psychological problems.

There are also some more complex considerations to the problems such as the power of crowds/group dynamics, poor leadership, immoral social values and poorly developed consciences. These problems may be the root of bullying and so they all need to be tackled by the parents, teachers and other social leaders. Stronger kids (not just physical but emotional) need to stand up for what’s right and protect their peers if they can as well.

I think it is pretty obvious that these same issues will manifest into even bigger problems when these kids become adults and their behavior has never been corrected. In a world that is already seeing far too much suffering and violence we surely need to start with our kids by keeping them safe and happy so that they can grow up and maintain these values with the rest of the planet.

It’s all about understanding consequences of actions and standing up for what’s right. Be sure to check out the trailer of the new documentary “The Bully Project” below and to share it with friends and family, it is now time to take a stand!

About the film:
Following five kids and families over the course of a school year, the film confronts bullying’s most tragic outcomes, including the stories of two families who’ve lost children to suicide and a mother who waits to learn the fate of her 14 –year-old daughter, incarcerated after bringing a gun on her school bus. With rare access to the Sioux City Community School District, the film also gives an intimate glimpse into school busses, classrooms, cafeterias and even principles offices, offering insight into the often-cruel world of children, as teachers, administrators and parents struggle to find answers.

Bully is shown in select theaters beginning Friday, March 30.

I was selected for this sponsorship by the Clever Girls Collective. Find showings in your area for The Bully Project and buy tickets here.

The following two tabs change content below.

Angela V

Founder and Writer at One Smiley Monkey blog
Hi, my name is Angela van Tijn and I live in Vancouver, Canada with my wonderful husband, our two boys and our puppy. I am the founder and primary contributor behind One Smiley Monkey. Welcome to my blog!

28 responses to “The Bully Project: It’s Time to Take a Stand {Parenting}”

  1. thanks you for highlighting such an important issue!!

  2. Wonderful post! I will be checking out the movie!

  3. Great post and initiative. We will be taking our part and teaching our son against bullying.

  4. I had no idea there was a documentary on about this serious problem. I recall being bullied in grade school and it was a horrible time for me. It did end and I don’t really recall how or why but I do remember the feeling well. I have heard many people say silly things like:”I was bullied and it didn’t hurt me none.” In fact I heard this exact comment less than a month ago and I really wanted to rip into the person and I am pretty non-confrontational. Frankly, I think the bullying has gotten worse and more cruel and I agree it has to stop. I am most worried about my youngest son (11) because he is so sensitive and any bully could destroy him. I worry all the time about it but luckily not much has happened yet and hopefully never will. I so hope that with greater awareness and programs that bullying can be stopped. Every one deserves to feel safe!

  5. April 4–I sadly agree with you about the harm of bullying. It is much more prevalent now than in years gone by. As a former teacher, I did not condone or allow it in my classroom and I think teachers could do more. Essentially, though, it is up to parents to teach their children the values of being kind and considerate by example and teaching. I think, also, that moral values seem to have lost their importance and I cannot see a successfully kind society without them. We are our brothers’ keepers after all.-el03ro

  6. I am always glad to see another blog highlighting bullying. If we educate and discuss it openly it will help those that are most affected by it.

  7. I saw a screening of this film and it was so heartbreaking to watch. Very powerful and emotionally raw! I hope all parents will watch it with their children and start a meaningful discussion with them about bullying.

  8. Such an important subject-great post and great movie clip!

  9. Thank you for sharing in this important issue. I hope our family never has to experience any form of bullying.

  10. I will see the movie if I can!

  11. I heard about this movie and will be taking the kids to see it. I am so thankful that there is a No Bullying, zero tolerance policy in our school. There used to be a problem but it was handled correctly and solved..thank you for this great posting..

  12. Thank you for raising awareness to this important issue!

  13. Thanks for bringing up this important topic.

  14. such an important topic! every parent needs to be aware of this.

  15. I’m relieved to see that this problem is being tackled as my daughter heads into school – not something I want her to be a part of.

  16. I was bullied in school so I do know the ramifications of this happening to a child’s self-esteeem. it went on for over a year until finally I had enough and stood up to my bully and he did back down. But that was many years ago, now the kids seem more intent on really hurting you and they seem to be relentless in their bullying. I will see this movie for sure.

  17. This is so important. I can’t believe how horrible bullying has become. Thanks for helping to shed a light on the need for change.

  18. I’m glad to see this issue brought out into the open in so many places, including here because, not only can bullying emotionally damage a child for life, it can lead to physical self-harm. Please parents, be vigilant when it comes to your children…after all, you know your child better than anyone else!

  19. so much great advice

  20. Kids and parents need to know.

  21. I work in a public school (in a non-teaching, no direct contact with students role) — and it is so ramped and ignored. So unfortunate. I wish this was made a bigger issue, I wish it wasn’t so easily ignored. I wish there was more I could do in my role.

  22. yes, Kids need to learn at an early age, so glad I live in Canada with diversity

  23. When I was young, my school was filled with a handful of bullies, and a few of us still suffer from bad nerves and anxiety to this day over being bullied! It is never a nice feeling, so one should teach their own children to treat others the way that they would like to be treated.

  24. Great article, OSM. I do want to point out that bullying/bullies do not stop in childhood you will run across them as adults, too. As you mentioned it is important to learn how to deal with bullies and our reactions to them in order to be able to deal with them in adulthood, too. With Facebook, camera phones, blogs, you tube, etc. bullying is so much more intrusive and reaches so many more people in such a short period of time. Everyone needs to do what they can when they can to stop bullying and its effects on those being bullied.

  25. Great article ans very eye opening; bullying is such an important issue. We talk about it with our 4 year old all the time because our neighbours son is 9 and he is the street bully. My son actually tells him he doesn’t want to play with him if he is going to be a bully. So proud of my son for that, he knows what a bully is and when someone shouldn’t be treating the other person a certain way.

  26. What a great project! I cannot stand children who feel the need to hurt other children to make themselves feel good. Such a great poroject!

Leave a Comment